Death

We can be faced with death at all ages.Someone come not to face it untill they are 40 years old, and someone face it at the age of 5.
It's not something we can control, it's just something that happends.
The first time a realative dies, it comes as a shock. Even though you knew it would happen.
Because even when you are prepared for it, you aren't prepared. It maybe sounds strange, but when it has happend to you, you would know what I mean.
Another persons death, isn't something you can really prepare for, it's just something you have to face.
There's nothing to do about it. You can't bring the person back, no matter what. Therefore you have to live with the fact, and start living your own life again. Even though it seems almost impossible.
It applies for everyone. No matter if they are 5 or 50 years old.

The big difference is how you handle it.
There's many different ways to do that, and some are better than others.
Anyway, there isn't a rulebook, and if there was, it wasn't something you just can follow regardless. The only thing there is to say is, that you should try to say a good goodbye and get back to your life. It is possible.
And then you should look back at the good memories you had with that person. It doesn't help looking back on the bad ones.

Sometimes the death is infact, the best possibility for the person, and sometimes it's not.
Wouldn't it be much more worse, if they suffer instead?

I would look so stupid

You ofen hear people saying, "I don't know if I should do this, I would look stupid" or something like that.

It indicates that nowadays, people are afraid to do something, if they are unsure what everybody else would think of it. And if they are convinced that, what ever they do, would look silly, funny or stupid, then they are afraid of what other people would think, and they then choose not to do it. Just to be on the safer site.
And if they are supposed to do something they know they are not good at, they can tend to give up in advance, and then it's clear that whatever they end up doing, will go wrong and everybody will see that they haven't done anything to encourage it. And therefore it will look kind of silly, and noone will be impressed.
On the other hand, if they instead try to do it right, and take the assignment seriously, then people normally get pleasantly surprised and impressed. And you won't look silly at all.
As a bonus, you will feel much better afterwards, because you have done it, even when you were certain that you couldn't.

In reality people get impressed when you do something and try, no matter what your skills are, just the fact that your'e trying is impressing and admireable.
Otherwise, you will just look insecure and unserious, wich never look good.
Nowadays all to many people think to much about what other would say, and ends up not trying at all, when others actually would be impressed, just because you try.

Appreciate

When someone does something good to a person, that person can tend to forget to thank that person.

And even if it isn't such a big or important thing that is done, then it's still a good idea to remember to say thank you and show them, that you appreciate what they have done.

It can really be surprising how little there is needed to make people feel appreciated, and make them just a little happier.

Sometimes we tend to forget it usually doesn't need more to make an other persons life, just a little better.

Friends and loneliness

Friends and loneliness is the opposite of each other.

Thats at least what you tend think, but maybe it isn't always in that way..?
It's almost only the persons who has, or are trying it themself, who knows, that it isn't always how it is.

For someone, having friends doesn't always means that you aren't lonely.

Sometimes when everything seems fine, everything can be wrong.

Someone are in a situation where they only meet people, they actually don't get specially good along with. Maybe, on the outside, it seems like they're really getting along, and are very good friends, but sometimes the surface lies.

It can be, that they only are friends and a lot together, because of the fact that they don't know who else to be with. Or they only know someone who lives too far away etc.

And then they can feel lonely, even when they have a friend, or a lot of friends, if they doesn't get along that well as it seems.

To feel like having no really close friends, can really devastate you.

Sometimes you just wish that you had someone you felt like you could say anything to, and someone who would have you as "1st choice" nearly no matter what situation.

Feeling like that can make you feel empty inside. You can begin to close yourself and give up.

You can feel like you have no hope left.

And maybe the fact of people not knowing, not realizing what you are going through, that they're too ignorant to know, can be even more depressing and sad to you.

Many people isn't aware that someone can have it like that.

When everything seems fine on the outside, then what could be wrong?

Predictable

In our lifetime we use a lot of time doing the same things, over and over.

We get up, go to work or school and go home and do almost the same as we did the day before.

If we never decide to do something else, we can use our whole life going in circles; never coming anywhere.

I would say it's a waste.

We could do many things in the time where we actually are doing nothing, but we don't.

We must change the circle one time from another, and actually do something new.

We must go beyond the boundaries somtimes.

Just to see whats on the other side.

Living life

Many times we're worried about future and consequenses.

We are being careful and reluctant.

We all know about it.
And of course you shouldn't forget about the consequenses or forget the future; but sometimes is it a good idea just to forget about them anyway and just live your life.

If we don't do that, we'll forget to live, and what's the life worth if we forget how to live?

Sometimes you just have to go wild and forget about the problemes and consequenses just for a second.

You can do it without override and forget about your responsabilities.

Everything ends, and so do life.

We only have one life, don't waste it!

Why?

Why?

Why do we exist?

Why is the world as it is?

Why don't we live in a perfect world?

Why, why, why?


Questions..

Why do we ask questions?

Why don't we just accept the things as it is? We want to know more. We want to discover more. If we understand what there's being talked about, then we can wonder and start thinking, and at last we can start asking.
When we ask, we get answers the most.
Sometimes the answers isn't that good, but it's still an answer you can use to consider thw whole subject.
The more you ask, the more knowlegde you get.


In some religions it's not the mening that you should ask.
When you for example in christianity, you shouldn't questioning Jesus when he said something.
The things he said was just correct, and you should just obey. And so for the Bible
Now. Let's get it clear; a lot of the things in the bible isn't mad things, but there is no prove at all, that there exists a god, or that it happened.
But it's clear that the Bible dosn't put up for questions.

In my eyes asking is one of the best things you can do.
If we hadn't asked at all through time, we did not have the same well-developed society.


Why, what, who?

What's important?

What is important?
One question - a lot of answers.
It also depends on which context it's asked.
Right now I'm talking about what's important about people.
Still one question - maybe more answers..
Every person is different from another, and that's why there is so many answers to the question. Everyone has their own opinion.
It's also different if your'e talking about the one next door, a friend, a partner or yourself. I'm pretty sure that we all can agree that it's important to be able to trust your friend and the partner should love you back.
But when it comes to youself or a completly stranger you meet once and should try to jugde, it's another talk.
Specially when it comes to beauty, as I wrote in my last post..
Tall persons usally says it's the height that is important while less tall persons says it isn't that important. Clever people would say it's cleverness, physical strong people would say it's the physical ability and persons who find themself extraordinary beautiful, but maybe not so tall, clever, atletic or so on, would say it's they beauty that's most important.
And you can continue..

The most 'beautiful' persons may be the persons who look most healthy and is the one who seems to be the one who is most able to bring their genes on to the next generation.
The science has tried time on time to discover the formel behind beautiful, and they've said they have found it; and maybe they have, but is it that, that's the important?
Maybe it's up to each person to decide on their own?

Memories

One of the most valueable things you can have, is memories.

It's something you cant touch, it's something you can't see, it's something you can't heaar, it's something you can't taste.

Maybe you have some pictures or some videoclip, but the real memory is inside you, else it would be like looking at something for the first time, if you haven't got the memory inside yourself.

And then you wouldn't care to see the picture or the video, because you didn't actually know what it was completly.

Memories can be a lot of things..

It can be places, holidays, persons, an experience, it can be almost everything.

The most important thing, is to never forget you most important memories.

It's here where pictures, videoes and other things from the place, person etc. can help you to remember the memory.

What would life be without memories?

Something that wouldn't be remebered.